To make or not, an apology, to receive or not

Whatever we have done, 

 it must have caused some effect on others.

Some may even be adverse impacts.

If we feel guilty or uncomfortable,

we may want to make an apology 

to the person being hurt.

To make an apology more effective

 to elicit forgiveness and
reconciliation, 

we should know what kind of 

inter-personal relationship with the person 

and the person's particular characteristics. 

Some professionals advise that if 

we don’t know
the person well enough to determine 

which type of apology to make, 

we can offer 

“detailed apologies with multiple
components” 

since some components out of all 
may rightly touch upon 

what is important to the person hurt. 

——
Chinese Translation

道歉與否，接受與否

無論我們做了什麼，
  它一定會對一些其他人產生一些影響，
甚至傷害。
如果我們對自己的所作所為感到內疚或不安，
我們可能想要對這些受傷的人道歉！

要道歉有效而能得到寬恕和諒解，
我們應該知道和受傷的人是怎麼樣的人，
及和他們有著怎麼樣的關係。

有些專家建議，

如果我們不熟識這些受傷的人，
不知怎樣向他們道歉，
我們可以提供
“多向度漁翁撒網式道歉”
因為道歉的某些內容，
可能會能令受傷人受落！

Adele - Hello

Hello, it's me, I was wondering

If after all these years you'd like to meet to go over everything

They say that time's supposed to heal, yeah

But I ain't done much healing 

Hello, can you hear me?

I'm in California dreaming about who we used to be

When we were younger and free

I've forgotten how it felt before the world fell at our feet 

There's such a difference between us

And a million miles 

Hello from the other side

I must've called a thousand times

To tell you I'm sorry, for everything that I've done

But when I call you never seem to be home 

Hello from the outside

At least I can say that I've tried

To tell you I'm sorry, for breaking your heart

But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore 

Hello, how are you?

It's so typical of me to talk about myself, I'm sorry

I hope that you're well

Did you ever make it out of that town where nothing ever happened? 

It's no secret

That the both of us are running out of time 

So hello from the other side

I must've called a thousand times

To tell you I'm sorry, for everything that I've done

But when I call you never seem to be home 

Hello from the outside

At least I can say that I've tried

To tell you I'm sorry, for breaking your heart

But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore 

Ooh, anymore

Ooh, anymore

Ooh, anymore

Anymore... 

Hello from the other side

I must've called a thousand times

To tell you I'm sorry, for everything that I've done

But when I call you never seem to be home 

Hello from the outside

At least I can say that I've tried

To tell you I'm sorry, for breaking your heart

But it don't matter, it clearly doesn't tear you apart anymore

Respect for the Elderly

In any society nowadays, 

most people do not have much respect for the elderly.

 But there are still some people 

who do treat the elderly with respect.

 Some people respect the elderly out of their 

natural respect to seniority, priority or ranking.

But more of these people respect the elderly because 

they are convinced by

the advice, experience or assistance 

they receive from the elderly. 

Therefore, the elderly's own behaviour can 

help determine how far they are respected.

For example,

a senior intern can act to become a respectable intern if

he can act the role of an intern properly 

an elderly can act to become a respectable person if

he can act with his seniority（老而彌堅）, 

but not by his seniority (以老賣老）.

×　×　×

The Intern is a 2015 American comedy film

directed by Nancy Meyers.

The film stars Robert De Niro and Anne Hathaway

in the two leading roles。

Anne Hathaway act as Jules Ostinis

who is the founder and CEO of About the Fit,

a fast-growing e-commerce fashion company.

Robert De Niro acts a Ben Whitaker

who is a widower and retired executive

at a phone directory company

who becomes a senior intern for Jules Ostinis.

In the film, you can see how Ben 

as a senior intern can act to become

a respectable intern as he can act the role of

an intern properly with his seniority.

But I think not many elderly can

act to become a respectable elderly

with his seniority as Ben Whitaker

who should be an exception in reality.

Intern- Trailer 

Slip of the Tongue for Love

Occasionally, we make slips of the tongue

by making mistakes in speaking.

The mistake may be

a wrong pronunciation of a word or

an improper use of a wrong word 

instead of the right one.

Such verbal slips may arise from 

some unconscious thoughts, 

thus revealing some unconscious belief, wish, 

or motive of the speaker.

Such verbal slips are known as

Freudian slips after Sigmund Freud.

So, when you want to say,

"I have tons of love for you,"

yet you say,

"I have none of love for you" instead!

This verbal slip may reveal that

your love for him/her is rapidly fading...

 ——————————————————————————

聽不到的說話 - Sukie S

 

 

An Exclusive List of Recorded Songs for You

Music recorded on cassette tapes began to

replace music on vinyl since the early 1970s 

as it was more affordable for general consumers.

Additionally, 

it was also more appealing because 

songs could be recorded on cassette tapes,

whereas this was not possible with vinyl.

How satisfying it was to record songs

on cassette tapes according to

your own preferences.

Surely, it was even more satisfying if

you could record songs on cassette tapes

according to your lover's preferences,

when your love affair first began.

* * *

They were also recalling their 

good old memories of 

recording messages of love 

on cassette tapes for their lovers.

Love in the centre of the world: 

世界の中心で、愛をさけぶ 

 

Bitter Medicine Bonuses

I visited my family doctor.
The doctor checked my body and told me that
my blood pressure was a bit high.
So he prescribed
some blood pressure medicine
for me!

Three months later,
I visited my family doctor again.
He checked and confirmed that
my blood pressure was controlled and normal.
But I told the doctor that
the joints in my hands sometimes ached.
The doctor explained to me that
blood pressure medicine would
cause joint aching.
So he prescribed
some joint ache medicine
in addition to
some blood pressure medicine
for me this time!

Another three months later,
I visited my family doctor again.
He checked and confirmed that
my blood pressure was controlled and normal.
I told the doctor that
my hand's joints did not ache now, but instead,
my stomach sometimes ached.
The doctor told me that
the joint ache medicine could
cause a stomach ache.
So he prescribed
some stomach ache medicine,
in addition to
some joint ache medicine and
some blood pressure medicine
for me this time!



I only hope that such bitter medicine bonuses
will not be further added to me,
they will only agitate me and push my blood pressure
to go up much more!

_____________________________


 Daughter- Medicine

*

Face's Face Value

Some say that the factors determining one's life

are in the following priority: 

First: Inborn Fate (Gene)

Second: Life Encounters

Third:  Feng Shui (Environment)

Fourth: Good Deed Performance 

Fifth: Studying

Inborn fate surely includes your inborn face!

With a good-looking face forming 

part of your good fate, 
your life and living are positively determined, 
even if you do not study hard to equip yourself 

with necessary knowledge/qualifications 

for work and living!
  
Without a good looking face, 
you need to struggle hard to 
pursue the second to fifth factors above 
to turn your life better on. 
Such hard struggle makes you
both physically and physiologically exhausted 
and give you an even worse look!

Yet, though a good looking face contributes 
much to your good life,
it is not quite necessary to get
a 120% extra-good looking face,
it will invite lots of jealousy and troubles
if you are too beautiful / handsome!

As you must have a good fate before 
you can have a good face, 
thus just a slightly good looking face is OK 
to help you well to survive. 

Chinese Version

一命

二運

三風水

四積陰德

五讀書

一命當然包括樣貌啦！

有個好樣，
已經大致決定了人生的走勢！
就算五讀書（唔讀書），
人生也未必不濟！

無個好樣，

就要努力做好二三四五項！
如此努力，好辛苦啫！
個樣捱得又殘多一點點呢！ 

不過，也不必１２０％超好樣，靚爆鏡！
因為會招惹很多妒忌的！

既然命中註定，

少少靚就夠！

____

Carole King - Beautiful

You got to get up every morning 

with a smile on your face

And show the world all the love in your heart

Then people gonna treat you better

You're gonna find, yes, you will

That you're beautiful as you feel

Waiting at the station 

with a workday wind a-blowing

I've got nothing to do but 

watch the passers-by

Mirrored in their faces, 

I see frustration growing

And they don't see it showing, 

why do I?

You got to get up every morning 

with a smile on your face

And show the world all the love in your heart

Then people gonna treat you better

You're gonna find, yes, you will

That you're beautiful as you feel

I have often asked myself 

the reason for the sadness

In a world where tears are just a lullaby

If there's any answer, 

maybe love can end the madness

Maybe not, oh, but we can only try

You got to get up every morning 

with a smile on your face

And show the world all the love in your heart

Then people gonna treat you better

You're gonna find, yes you will

That you're beautiful

You're beautiful

You're beautiful as you feel

Observable Aging vs Unobservable Aging

When we are getting old,

we are experiencing some changes in our own bodies.

Some are having swelling bellies
while some are having whitening hair.

Their aging is easily seen.

Some others are experiencing changes

that are not easily seen.

Some are having weakening bones; or

some are having joint-aching.

Their aging is not easily observable.

Observable aging is less harmful to health
yet it is psychologically more damaging!

Unobservable aging is more harmful to health
yet it is psychologically less damaging!

It seems that the God is very fair!
You need not own them all~
yet you cannot leave them all~

_______________

The Beatles - When I am Sixty-four

Life in Average

Every one can only lead one's life once.

So one can count what one has done

throughout one's whole life in total.

However, for statistical purpose for various uses,

one should count what one has done
throughout one's whole life in average.

For example, success or failure,

in whatever aspects,

with whatever means and ends, 

it is better measured in average of whole life.

With this perspective to live,

we should not become too happy
with some successes at certain points,

And we should not be too depressed when

with some failures at some other points.

Measured in average,

some success or failure may be 
deviated much from the average!

Don't take it too serious!

Count it in average, as it may be just
an isolated deviation from your average!

-----

James Morrison - One Life